Take Control Of Your Life

Something that most of us rarely think about is the way in which external influences affect our lives. Every day we are bombarded with information from televisions, radios, cell phones, computers, friends, associates and customers. On it’s own, one piece of information has little effect on how we think or act. However, the cumulative affect of all of this information over a period of years can have a profound effect on who we are and how we view ourselves and the rest of the world.

News and current affairs programs deliver an overwhelmingly negative message. They mostly highlight stories of death, destruction, deception and fraud. Rarely do they provide stories of triumph or heroism. The main reason for the imbalance in positive versus negative content is simply that negative stories sell much better than positive stories. Many more people will rush to see a large building on fire than those that would go to see the guy who raised $10,000 for the local hospital. Have you ever noticed how most people, when asked how they are, will have a brief positive answer or a long negative answer? If they are okay then they will probably just say “I’m, okay” or “I’m good thanks”. Ask the guy with the bad back though and he will probably spend the next 10 or 15 minutes telling you about the operations he has had to endure and how limiting his back pain is. We find it much easier to talk about the negative aspects of our lives than we do the positive things.

So how does this really affect us and how do we take control so that we can screen out the negative and embrace the positive? We can never completely screen out negative influences and we shouldn’t ever try to do that – life has negative aspects that we all must be able to endure and overcome. We can seek to balance things out though, so that there are more positive influences and experiences in our day to day lives than negative ones. A good place to start is by cutting down on the news you watch or listen to each day. The vast majority of news has no direct affect on your life other than perhaps to re-inforce a negative view of the world in general.

If you are truly committed to improving your lifestyle and becoming a better person, then you need to focus on the things that matter by embracing the activities that assist you in achieving your goals, and rejecting the activities that prevent you from achieving those goals. Negative news, commentary and influences do nothing to assist you, so shutting them out, or at the very least reducing the time you spend on them is a very logical and positive change. Listening to personal development audios, reading motivational books or watching videos is a great way to get a daily dose of positive influence. If you have to commute to work each day then your car can become your mobile classroom.

It’s All In The Mind

You’ve probably heard people say those words many times in your life, but have you ever really stopped to think about what it really means or whether it is really true?

You may be surprised at just how much of an effect your mind and the way you process thoughts and experiences has on your life. There are literally millions of people who only achieve a fraction of what they are capable of, and the only hurdle in their way is their mind.

Napoleon Hill, author of the classic ‘Think And Grow Rich’ said ‘What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve’. There’s a big clue right there in that quote. What if the mind never conceives? What if you never think about the things in life that you really want and how you might go about getting them? That’s the trap that most people fall into. They simply go on with their lives, accepting that what they have right now is all that they are meant to have in life. After all, they were probably told by family and friends that our main aim in life should be to get a good job, work for forty or fifty years and then retire. And if you’re lucky, you might even get a gold watch!

That’s where a second force comes into play that works hand in hand with your mind – influence. A good, though fictional, example of how influence and your thoughts can limit your success is in the film ‘The Truman Show’. In the film, Truman Burbank lives his life, not knowing that he is actually in a very large television set. From his point of view, that television set is his entire world. Truman is influenced by news reports of ‘the dangers of travel’ and other stories about how good it is to stay home. These things work to deter him from wanting to explore outside his small world.

Exploration is one of the keys to success. It’s important to explore new ideas, new social contacts and opportunities. Without that exploration you may very well find yourself on a treadmill – where it seems that you are moving forward when, in fact, you are exerting some effort but not actually going anywhere fast.

Now might be a great time to start thinking outside your current ‘world’. Think about what you would REALLY like to be doing and the things that you might need to do to turn some dreams into reality. Start planning something really big instead of accepting something much smaller than what you are capable of.

After all, life is about enterprise and achievement. It’s about being all you can be!